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The Secret Lives of Men

What Men Want You to Know About Love, Sex, and Relationships

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Say Goodbye to Guessing Games, Communication Conflicts,
One-sided Conversations, 'Dry Spells,' and Silent Treatments

For centuries women have been trying to put into words what perplexes them most about men. However, the inner world of the male's psyche continues to succeed in outwitting women, and The Secret Lives of Men is the long-awaited antidote that unravels the mysteries that keep women from enjoying true connection and authentic relationships with the men in their lives, whether they be husbands, partners, sons, fathers, or friends.

In this provocative and pivotal book, male psychology expert, researcher, and professor, Christopher Blazina, Ph.D., contends that contrary to popular belief, men really do want to be understood, not cast aside as unemotional, backward thinking, desensitized, or 'clueless'--"and they desire to connect with others.
With unbiased compassion and true understanding of the needs of both men and women, Dr. Blazina offers techniques and prescriptions for navigating the emotional, physical, and intellectual realms of the male psyche at all stages of his life. Through The Secret Lives of Men you will:

  • Discover the 'Ten Commandments of Growing Up Male'
  • Learn about the secret shoebox and how to get him to unlock this 'holy of holies'
  • Have a better sex life and get on the same page about what feels hot and what does not
  • Identify the 'proper,' effective ways to give feedback to a man
  • Avoid the major relationship landmines and let healthy conflict deepen relationships

Men have secret lives, and they are complex and multidimensional. The Secret Lives of Men serves as a bridge between you and the men you want to know and understand.

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    • Publisher's Weekly

      September 29, 2008
      Gimmicks are mercifully absent in this revealing introduction to the male psyche that introduces romantic partners and family members to the process of male socialization (the “ten commandments of growing up male” such as “there is only one way to be a man,” “fear the feminine,” “funnel... feelings into sex or aggression”) and the entrenched cultural rules that men confront and struggle to live up to. Blazina, a male-psychology expert, is a compassionate guide. While some territory has already been mined by others, his effort serves more ably than most as a practical instrument for improving relationships with men, through unpacking the “secret shoebox,” a metaphorical place where men store their most private wishes, fantasies and pains; making enlightening suggestions for helping the notorious “Peter Pan” become an adult; and providing examples of how women—often unwittingly—“emotionally castrate” the men in their lives. “Mars” and “Venus” are nowhere in sight as Blazina embraces commonalities between the sexes in this respectful and deeply healing book.

    • Library Journal

      November 15, 2008
      Although male psychology expert Blazina admits that there are many similarities between men and women, crucial differences between the two genders keep them from enjoying true connection and communication. Blazina explains that most men have been taught since childhood to hide their feelings, a practice that has resulted in aggression and other barriers that need to be resolved before intimacy can take place. Blazina discusses in detail how to help one's man (or partner, friend, or son) make peace with his past and share those parts of himself that remain hidden. A particularly helpful chapter explains how to offer constructive feedback to a man carefully and compassionately. Blazina concludes his book by discussing how a guardian can help boys grow up to be healthy men. Containing valuable information about the male psyche and destined to be read by female patrons, this is recommended for all libraries.

      Copyright 2008 Library Journal, LLC Used with permission.

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